February 2, 2010

Author Guest Post: Barbara Knobova

How to Learn to Accept Yourself as You Are

A common problem many women have is not being able to accept themselves as they are. They often act confident and secure with themselves but really are very insecure on the inside. If this sounds familiar, you will be glad to know you can learn to accept yourself as you are. People who do not have a lot of confidence can become strong and learn to believe in themselves.

Why Learn to Accept Yourself?

You have to learn to accept yourself if you want to live a happy life and not waste your time being insecure. Learning to accept yourself allows you to achieve many more things because you will have confidence.

When you learn to accept yourself, you can be the person you are meant to be. You can learn to be confident, calm, happy and enthusiastic and you can be very motivated to improve the rest of your life.

Tips for Learning to Accept Yourself

You will find that learning to accept yourself is not as hard as you might think if you know the basics of self-acceptance.

The following advice will help you on your journey to accepting yourself.

1. Realize you are going to make mistakes. We all make mistakes no matter how hard we try to be perfect. It is impossible to not make mistakes. Some of your mistakes may be minor and others may be a big deal. The key is learning how to recover from your mistakes and move on.

2. Focus on the present. Often, people have trouble learning to accept themselves because they focus on the past, not the present. We all have things in our past that haunt us and that we wish we could change. In order to learn to accept yourself, you have to let the past go.

3. Don't compare. No two people are the same. All of us have unique talents and have had different experiences in life so focus on yours and not what others have and can do. You cannot learn to accept yourself if you worry about how you compare to others instead of what you have to offer the world.

Embrace your uniqueness and be proud of what makes you different from everyone else.

4. Set goals you can achieve. If your goals are too outrageous, you are going to fail. You will never be able to even get close to unrealistic goals. That is why your goals need to be realistic; they need to be things you want to achieve and can achieve.

5. Learn to appreciate yourself. Often, we focus on our outside appearance and let that affect our self-esteem. Our society puts a lot of pressure on all of us to look good. It is important to keep in mind that those people in the magazines have teams who make them look that way and their photos may even be airbrushed. You should appreciate yourself as you are.

6. Keep thinking positively. The key to learning to accept yourself is learning how to keep your thoughts positive. Your thoughts are very powerful!

When you focus on changing your thought patterns, you also change the way you act and the things you do. Having a positive attitude and thinking positively is going to increase your self-esteem.

Ask for Help

It is important to know that you have people in your life who can help you and will help you. Your friends and family can help you look at a situation differently. You are probably hard on yourself but your loved ones are there to offer support and love. Your friends and family are the people who love you just like you are. You need to realize that you have to feel that way too. Learn to accept yourself so you can make the most of your life and enjoy every day.

Barbora Knobova is a writer, relationship coach and expert in Delicious Life. A world traveler, she is one of those rare world citizens who live everywhere and nowhere. Barbora is a firm believer in female friendship, loyalty and bonding. She writes hilarious, sharp-witted, caustically apt, ironic, moving, true books for strong, independent, smart, fearless women. Barbora has also written several self-improvement books and teaches women about the importance of self-love in relationships and life in general. Barbora speaks eight languages and has found her home away from home in New York, London and Milan. She is always on the move, accompanied by her beagle Brinkley, the nasty dog from Tales for Delicious Girls.  You can visit her website at www.barboraknobova.com.

Book Information:
BK Publishing
Sept. 2009
180 pages
$22.70 US

Disclosure: I did not receive any compensation for this post.

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